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Heart Issues: Are you the Dating or Courting type?

If you are the dating type, chances are your heart has been broken on several occassions already. If not, your chance is coming. If you are the courting type. Fact is you will (if not alread)battle with feeling about girls. But your restraint will be do you believe there is "the good and perfect one" for you?
Dealing with Heart Issues. I think the logical way to deal with heart issues is first to admit to yourself that indeed these things do exist and that they affect you personally. Don't and I repeat don't think you are any less a Christian or human for that matter if you find yourself battling the heart-battle. The only and gross impedance to healing is to pretend these issues don't exist and worse still to deny their existence or choose to ignore them. The best way to heal is always and it always begins with a humble and honourable heart. Honesty is the key to healing of any kind.

Now if your problem is falling for girls now and then. Check the pattern. How does it exist and how does it happen to you. Does it come when you are happy or when sad? Do you ever think of having a girlfriend when all other friendships are going fine and do you ever feel lonely? What do you think of yourself? Do you see the worth in you, in other words are you truly convinced that you are a worthy person. Do you believe that in creating you God wasn't just doing justice to the remaining piece of clay? Do you believe that He took His time, thought deeply about what He was making and why and how He was going to make it and for what reason He was going to?

If you have never thought or considered that thought then, there lies your problem and first step to your healing. Where do you look for answers for most of the things that happens to you or in your life? You see, a lot of the times we look for answers to our lives from other people who themselves are also looking for answers to their own questions about life. Get me right here. I am not saying we should not consult others. What I am saying is we should consult others after we have consulted ourselves first. It is us God created the way we are.

We are His original copy of ourselves. To Him we are a master piece. He created and wired us for the best of His plans, and its either we look to Him for the success of His plans through us or to others for the failure of His plans. Now, I really don't think that makes Him happy. But I want you to remember this, it is He who made us and the desire we have to consult other now and then when faced with problems or questions we cannot answer for ourselves. But again that need not be our first pot of protocol. He should. And by seeking for answers from Him we are implicitly consulting ourselves, we are in the process looking back at us and reflecting deeply at us.

Now, thats not easy there are certain things about ourselves that we don't want to see or consider looking at. Its fine for a start but not quite. We need to look at ourselves and know who we are and where we are destined apart from what people or circumstances dictates for us. We can only do this if we look to God first.

I have meet a number of people, some my very close friends who are dealing and battling with thoughts of lust for some and for some feelings for women. I deal with same issues myself, but only if i want to, or if I am distracted shortly but by the grace of God, I often find myself out. This is not to say I am any better than them but its because I know one thing for sure. God is always speaking to me, but how often do I listen to Him, then how can I not make silly mistakes if I don't listen to God speaking to me through my conscience? I constantly go back to God for checkup. That s the least i can do, because i know myself. I am my best enemy, i am no good to myself apart from God's watch over me. I know this sounds proud but it is the very truth that i try to live by through the grace of Christ.

I have realized one or two things in life and in love-life. You will have feelings for girls. Thats a fact. There is zero wrongs with that. Its normal. If you don't then may be you need to start getting worried. Most of the girls that you love or you think you do is because they simply, I say simply because thats just what it is, a simple fulfillment of a need or a void you have for attention. Note I say attention and not love. Its simply attention that you need. It could be you did not get that kind of attention from your parents when you were growing up or you were never really affirmed in love and so you are not sure you are loved. People can tell you how great a person you are, but the question is: do you believe what you hear. Chances are you don't and thats fine, really. Thats ok. I don't expect you to. At lest right now or there and then but you should. Renew your mind and believe it because God says it.

posted by PT @ 7:53 AM