Peace-be still

The "coolest person" I've meet.

As far as I am concerned there is no such thing as “a cool person”. However this does not mean that there aren’t some people I respect and hold at high esteem. For me the coolest person would definitely be a one whose ideals are beyond reproach in several if not in most cases.

To be cool for me means to be sensitive, to be respectful of other people and to be daring and caring about what is right and to live a life that counts. In other words I don’t find a lot of people who can live their lives to affect others in the most positive means possible. I find that a lot of people live a lifestyle that can best be defined as narcissistic and self-centred life-styles. Most people are self serving and selfish and that’s not cool at all.

A cool person, whatever being cool means for you would be a person who is willing to forgo their momentary pleasures for the good of their societies and those around them. I have met people who come close to having such ideals and such people deserve an accolade for their efforts. However, for most of the people I have encountered, living for the here and now seems to be the way to go. I believe that the day I really meet a cool person, then my life will never be there same again. I have meet a lot of people and I still find my life has not changed at least that much.

A cool person has something to offer, and something I will desire to either be a part of or something that would scaffold me into desiring to be a better person than I already am. Good and noble things are desirable and as far as I know there aren’t that much good and noble things and courses around to either emulate, to desire or to strive to be a part of. These are my findings and they can not be disputed you can try to argue with them but I bet you will find them truthful in many ways than not.

I find that at the heart of being cool is the ever demanding question of identity. How many people are truly stable in their identities? How many people love who they are without trying to be someone else, without trying to fit, without trying to impress? The positive articulation of the ideals and imperatives demanded by these questions will be for me the very litmus, indeed the acid-test by which I will measure what it is to be a “cool person”.

I have and I continue to encounter on a daily basis a people who are either struggling with moratoria identities or any other defective psychosocial personality disorders. I do not perceive such a trait as "cool" even though I am sometimes tempted to, for the mere fact that I truly desire to look at one person and say, “God they are cool.”

However, this seems to me more like a dream that one can never wake from. It is painful and at best disheartening. I say this fully aware and totally not oblivious of the fact that some people who will read this article will think I have completely lost it. I will definitely appreciate such people because this will for me be a true achievement: in the sense that at least I would have truly made a statement that gives people something to think about. For I believe one can not make judgement about something they have not thought about or something that have not challenged their comfort zones one way or the other.

In the post modernistic era in which we live, nothing seems to have any concrete meaning. Everything is either here and there or nowhere at all. Meaning has been reduced to a mere relativity for fear of being truly cool: a concept (coolness) I equate with pristine genuinity. Being truly genuine places certain demands and heightens the essence of what it truly means to be “cool”, and thus creates a much despised need for people to be true to themselves.

This means that for a minute we are made to face the real persons we are with all our flaws or those things we truly don’t like about ourselves. Faced with these demands we find it easier to withdraw and coil in the depth and gloom of an autistic cocoon we create for ourselves as a way of escaping reality. Thus I do not think there is or there will ever be anything cool about such a behaviour, and if this is what most people tend to do then it truly suffices to argue as I have already suggested that there is not such a thing as a “cool person” except of course in our dreams, somewhere deep down the recesses of our superficial hearts.

In our imaginary world, in the realm of fantasy “ cool persons” exist and I can not know about him because I am real, I am not phoney, I am wide awake, I see reality as it is.

posted by PT @ 8:09 AM